Defintion of Personality Border: Pattern of abnormal thoughts and behaviors that impairs relationship with others.
as with any list it's a generalization.. not all apply or can happen x percent of time.
Behavriours of ideal mother :
Comforts her child
Apologies for inappropriate behavior
Takes care of herself
Encourages independence in her children
Is proud of childrens accomplishment
Builds her children self esteem
Calms and soothes her children
Responds to her childrens changings needs
Disciplines with logical and natural consequences
Expects that her children will be loved by others
Never threatens abandonment.
Believes In her children’s basic goodness
Trusts her children
Borderline mother behaviors :
Confuses her child
Does not apologize or remember inappropriate behavious
Expects to be taken cared off
Punishes or discourages independence
Envies, ignores or demeans her childrens’ accomplishments
Destroys ,denigrates or undermine self esteem
Expects children to responds to her needs.
Frightens and upsets her children
Disciplines inconsistently or punitively
Feels left out jealour or resentlful if child is loved by someone else
Uses threat of abandonment or actual abandonment to punish the child
Does not believe in her children basic goodness
Does not trust her children.
Diagnosed of BPD if have 5 of the below traits
1.Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment
2.A pattern of unstable or intense relationships
3.Unstable self image or sense of self
4.Impulsiveness or behavior that could be self destructive: spending, sex , substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating,
5.Suicidal gestures / threats or self mutilating behavior
6.Intense moodiness/rapid mood changes
7.Feelings of emptiness
8.Inappropriate intense anger
9.Stress induced paranoid thoughts or dissociative (loses touch with reality)
